Lately, I’ve experienced lots of ups.
Lots of good, exciting, wonderful things. Meeting lots of good, exciting, wonderful people. My depression has been almost non-existent and I am not taking any happy days for granted. I am basking in a well-mind, well-heart and well-soul.
But even during happy, good days, I find myself wearing out to the point of exhaustion. Or, I find myself doing things that don’t give me life, that suck my joy and leave me empty.
Joy-sucking things just aren’t worth it.
When it comes down to it, the things that steal my joy — whether those are activities or people or relationships — just aren’t worth pursuing. They’re not worth my time, energy or emotions.
Things that steal my joy include:
- Mean people just being mean
- Petty fights
- Not getting a full night’s sleep
- Not taking time to care for myself
- Comparing myself to others who seem to have it all together
- Obsessing over pleasing people
Life-giving things are always worth it.
When it comes down to it, the things that give me life — activities, people, relationships, etc. — are always, always, ALWAYS worth pursuing. They make me better, they make me whole, they make me all warm and fuzzy!
Things that give me life include:
- Yummy tacos
- Drinking coffee + reading my Bible on Saturday mornings
- Spending time with my home group
- Petting puppies
- Taking time to myself to recharge
- Going on trips — near and far
- Laughing with my friends
- Going on dates with my boyfriend
- Going on dates with myself
- Climbing rocks
- Opening up to others, even when it’s hard
- Listening to my favorite bands
Sometimes it’s hard to prioritize.
Sometimes I don’t even realize joy-sucking things are joy-sucking until after the fact. That’s why it’s important for me to assess my needs and make sure I’m taking care of myself first (because self-care is key!!)
So here we go, friends, here is my call-to-action for you:
Hone into your needs and figure out what it is that makes you have negative thoughts, exhausted, or unwell. Now get rid of those things and tell them to just “BUG OFF.”
Oppositely, hone into your needs and figure out what makes you better, whole and all warm and fuzzy. Do more of those things, surround yourself with more of those people, and be kind to yourself.
Because life-giving things are always, always, ALWAYS worth it.