Mae’s Guide On How To Be Single

I watched this movie recently with my roomie.

As a young, single, Christian woman who has never been in a serious relationship, I was able to take a lot from it. At times, it seemed like I even wrote the script.

Except maybe, just maybe, I can do it better. Challenge accepted.

Mae’s Guide On How To Be Single:

  1. Embrace it. I’m not sure you can get very far without this first step. Embrace it. Be OK with being single. It might not be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, but I’m certain it isn’t the worst thing that’s happened to you either.
  2. Enjoy it. Similar to embrace, but even more so: enjoy it. Drink, laugh & be merry. Think of all the single perks: you can be in your PJs by 8 p.m. on Fridays, you can spend all of your money on brunch with friends, you can mother the cutest puppy in the world!! The opportunities are endless.
  3. Let yourself be envious. I know this sounds like it contradicts #1 and #2. Bear with me. I think you’re allowed to be envious to a degree. Not in this self-pitying, self-deprecating, covetous way. In a, “I see my friends who are couples and cherish what they have,” way. In a, “I like my life as it is, but see there is more to come,” way.
  4. End it. You’re allowed to be afraid of commitment, you’re allowed to say “no” to the third date. But eventually, if you do want more, you must let there be more. You’ll need to be confident in who you are and letting yourself be someone’s someone.

There. that’s the best i can do.

Those are my big four tips for surviving singleness as a millennial in this crazy, messed up world. Those are the four I currently live by. And so far, so good — for the most part.

There are moments I cry as I watch music videos about salt & pepper shakers who fall in love and get separated. (It’s true, ask my roomie Sweet Lauren).

There are moments I tear up at weddings not only because I’m excited, but there’s also a tiny, vicious thought that whispers, “You might never have one of these.”

But among all of these tiny, fleeting, “I’m sad” moments, I can’t help but be overjoyed by doing life with the people I love and the people who love me in return.

I can’t help but leap when I make new friends and giggle when I make them laugh. I can’t help but thank Jesus Man for these blessings, these good and bad and in between moments.

So here’s to you, reader:

Regardless of your relationship status, I declare this to you:

You are loved. You are known. Go in peace.


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